My mother and father taught me love is not about keeping score, it’s about giving without expecting. My mother’s wisdom on love and relationships has always stayed with me: "The secret to a lasting partnership is out-giving each other." This simple idea transformed how I view love, commitment, and the effort it takes to sustain them. When my mom shared her “rules” for marriage, I didn’t understand their depth at first. Over time, I realized her wisdom wasn’t just about maintaining a relationship, it was about creating one rooted in respect, love, and accountability.
We’re all responsible for ourselves, and in relationships, that means showing up fully and consistently. My mom’s rule of "out-giving" wasn’t about martyrdom. It was about mutuality! A reciprocal dance of generosity that keeps love alive…and that includes how we show up for the people we love.
A Deep Dive into Mom’s Matrimony Rules
Out-Give Each Other:
If your partner is always the one cooking, surprise them with a meal. If they usually plan date nights, take the lead for once. It’s about actively seeking ways to show you care.
Say Yes More Than No:
"Saying yes is an act of trust," my mom said. "It’s how you show your partner you believe in their ideas, dreams, and choices."
Respect Their Independence: